The Million March for Endometriois is a cause that is very near and dear to me. I am a longtime sufferer of endometriosis and recently diagnosed with adenomyosis. The march has been set up to bring more awareness to this illness and the debilitating pain and infertility that it can cause. There are not enough physicians that truly understand this problem. There are many women that have a similar story to mine and it is not the way that women should be made to live.(Story will be below. Please note that the story is graphic, with not so pleasant information in it.)
I am making Endometriosis Awareness Ribbon Scarves to show my support for the cause. The scarves are the official attire for the march! I have spoken with a coordinator of the event and we are going to paint Washington DC YELLOW ! There are many objectives for this march, all of which NEED to be accomplished.
Picture 1 is acrylic. Picture 2 is the light weight 100% Cotton. Picture 3 is a thicker warmer 100% Cotton.
Endometriosis is an illness that causes endometrial cells to grow outside of the uterus, which it is still unknown why. When those cells grow, they attach to other organs in the body. When it is that time of the month, all the cells react as though they are inside of the uterus, and can cause significant pain and complications with normal bodily functions.
My Story:
I became a "woman" when I was 13 years of age. From the very start, I had severe pain associated with my monthly. I missed 2-3 days of school every month. I was lucky to have a doctor that understood that I was not making up the pain and he wrote me a note for school, so that I did not get into trouble for missing so much school. My school was very understanding and did not reprimand me for missing school. It wasn't like I was enjoying myself, or running around having a good time. I was in the bathroom, laying on the floor, writhing and crying out in pain. I chose to stay in the bathroom because I would go through bouts of diarrhea and vomiting, along with extremely heavy bleeding. It was a wonderful thing to go through when I was supposed to be a child/teenager.
I ended up going to the hospital about 7 times in one year when I was 15-16. At that time I lived somewhere else and had doctor after doctor tell me that they did not know what was wrong with me. I was essentially hemorrhaging for 2 weeks at a time and would get a break for 2 whole days and then it would start again. I came back to the doctor that I had that was understanding and he told me that he suspected Endometriosis and put me on the DepoProvera shot, after trying many other Birth Control Pills to help with the symptoms that I suffered from. He said that it would help to maintain the illness and keep it from growing. (WRONG)
Fast forward to 2004, The pain had gotten so bad and the Depo Shots were no longer effective. The shots were supposed to be given every ninety days, and I was having to get them every sixty and I was still having a monthly, which hadn't happened for the many years I had taken it. I found a really good female Doctor at Baylor in Dallas. She was kind and explained things in a familiar and funny way. For instance, I had multiple cysts on my ovaries and she explained to me what my ovary SHOULD look like on the sonogram and what it DID look like. "You ovary is supposed to look like a chocolate chip cookie, with more cookie than chip. You have WAAAAAY more chip that you do cookie." LOL That made sense to me and it made me laugh, which is a hard thing to do when you are in so much pain. She ended up doing a lap surgery and found that I was a Stage 4 Endo sufferer. She said that they found it on every organ in my abdomen. As good as the doctor was, she did not have the knowledge to remove the endometriosis completely, and therefore made it worse for me in the long run.
After that surgery, I had no funds to keep going to the doctor, as now I had a pre existing condition. I was unable to acquire ins that would cover my treatment, so I lived in agony until 2013. By this time, I had had a miscarriage (April 2007), and had not been to the doctor since 2004, so no pre existing. My husband and I had been trying to get pregnant since our miscarriage, with no success. The pain and complications had gotten so severe that I was ready to shoot myself. Dying would be so much easier than going through the pain up to 2 times a month. Mind you, the pain is not only when I have my monthly visitor. It lasted for weeks. It messed up my bowels and caused pain with marital "fun", which wasn't so fun. I would sit in the living room and cry, and run to the bathroom and cry, puke, and be on the toilet. Imagine you are on the toilet with diarrhea and you have a waste basket in front of you because you are vomiting too. Sounds fun right? Well, add being in the worst pain that you can imagine. After I would get off of my monthly, I would get extremely constipated and then out of nowhere would have to run to bathroom with diarrhea (another wonderful side affect of Endo)
I was able to get on my husband's medical ins through his job at the beginning of this year. We had finally paid off some of our large bills and were able to afford the premiums. I did a Google search for a gyno that specialized in treating endometriosis. It brought up several names, but only one woman. (I prefer women because I was unfortunately raped as a child, and feel uncomfortable with men doctors) I made an appointment and went to see her. I described my situation and all of the complications that I was having. I even told her that I was to the point of wanting to die because the pain was so unbearable. She looked at me and told me that I was "normal", having cramps like most women, and sent me home with a years worth of Aleve. Yeah, ALEVE. I walked out of her office furious. My husband was even more upset than me. He knew that what I was going through was not "normal". He has a mother and 2 sisters, and he had never seen anyone in agony the way that I was. I joined a support group on Facebook, because I knew that I was NOT NORMAL, and was referred to Dr Dulemba. He is a real Specialist that treats only women who have Endo and the complications that results from having endo. I made an appointment with him and saw him at the end of March. His sonographer did a sonogram and found a endometrial mass on one of my ovarian tubes and saw that my ovaries were not moving, meaning they were adhered to something else in my abdomen. We set up surgery for April 3rd and he found that I was far from normal. On the post op report it is said that my anatomy was unidentifiable due to every organ in my abdomen was adhered together and they couldn't tell one organ from another. Dr Dulemba was given permission to take pictures to use as a teaching tool. He said that when he got in there, it was so much worse than he had originally thought, that he did not have time to take pictures. He was more focused on getting me ":fixed" than anything. He also told me that there is a point system that they use to determine what stage of endometriosis you have. You reach a Stage 4 at 40 points and he quit counting at 72. He found that I have Adenomyosis, which happens when the endometriosis penetrates the uterine muscle. The only way to treat the adeno is to have a hysterectomy. There is no cure for the endometriosis. Dr Dulemba excised the endo, which is the best treatment available for this illness right now. He disconnected all of my organs and patched me back up. He attempted to keep the adhesions from coming back, but he suspects that some of them have returned.
Needless to say, I am now at a point where I am going to have to fight with the insurance company, United Health Care, because the hospital that my In Network doctor uses, is Out Of Network. The hospital bill is over $177,000 and UHC is only willing to pay a little over $34,000. So now, I not only fight my body and the pain, I have to fight the insurance company. I HAD to have this surgery. It wasn't something that was an elective surgery. I need another surgery because I am having major issues with pain and trouble with severe constipation. I am not able to have the surgery because I owe the hospital over $140,000 and the ins has informed me that I am close to my yearly max, though they aren't paying that out.
I am considering a hysterectomy because I have no quality of life. I am not able to do normal, everyday things. I can't do dishes, wash laundry, vacuum, or play with my dogs. I can't have a marital relationship with my husband, so can't get pregnant, even if it were possible.
No one should have to deal with this.This is torture. I am being punished for being ill, for getting the necessary treatment, and for wanting to be a productive member of society. I would love to be able to go to the lake with friends and family, to Six Flags or Hurricane Harbor, or even go outside and help with yard work. I spend my days inside my house, hiding from the world. How is it fair? I know that life isn't fair, but this is beyond unfair. There is no reason that women should have to live in fear and agony. My hope is that this march will bring more awareness and many more changes to the medical community and how they treat us. We are passed over and pushed aside as though we don't matter. Some of us are no better than some cancer patients. No we won't die from Endometriosis, but we can die from some of the complications. Some of us, like me, suffer from severe pain. More women suffer from endo than are suffering from Breast Cancer (my grandmother is a survivor, so I am not trying to take anything away from it's importance), yet little attention and/or knowledge is focused on this illness. I think it is time there is and there are atleast a million other women that agree with me.
If you are interested in going to this event, please visit http://www.millionwomanmarch2014.org/ to see how you can participate. If you are planning on going, please visit my website and buy a scarf to wear to the event. A portion of the proceeds will be donated to help. Barbara Page is getting all of the information available to make this scarf the Official Attire for the March for Endo 2014!
Thank you for reading and I hope that you walk away with a little more knowledge about Endometriosis. If you know a young lady/woman that is suffering from painful periods, please don't think it is "normal". Pain is your body's way of telling you that there is a problem. Don't ignore it.
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